The one idea
Two adults, one room, and either of you can leave without explaining yourself. Nearly everything below follows from that.
Fine here
- Adult conversation between adults — direct, flirtatious, blunt, dull, whatever it turns out to be.
- Turning your camera off mid-call. It is a control, not a rule you broke.
- Skipping in four seconds because it was not a fit. No explanation owed.
- Saying you are not comfortable with something and expecting that to be the end of it.
Not fine here
- Nudity and sexually explicit conduct on camera. Adult-audience, not explicit. This line does not move.
- Anyone under 18, on camera or involved in any way. See child safety.
- Recording, screen-capturing or re-publishing a call.
- Harassment, threats, hate directed at who someone is, or pressure after a no.
- Advertising, soliciting, or trying to move someone to another platform.
- Bots, scripts, or pre-recorded video presented as a live camera.
Consent, specifically
A match is not consent to anything beyond the match. Asking once is conversation. Asking again after a no is pressure, and pressure is the thing this site is least willing to host.
It cuts both ways, which is the useful part: nobody here paid to be in the room, so nobody is obliged to perform in it.
What you control
On every match, one tap each, all on the call screen rather than three menus deep:
- Next — end it, no reason, no quota, no cooldown.
- Mute and camera-off — mid-call, whenever.
- Block — and it sticks.
- Report — goes to a person, reviewed the same day.
What happens when someone breaks this
A person reviews the report the same day. What follows depends on what happened: a warning for something minor and fixable, removal for anything serious, and a report onward where the law requires one.
Anything involving a minor skips all of that and goes straight to removal.
If we got it wrong
Moderation is people, and people misread things. If you think a decision was wrong, write to [email protected] with roughly when it happened and what you think was misread. Someone will actually look.
Anything on this page you want to ask about reaches a person at [email protected].